Firstly, what does it mean to have balance and harmony?
And how are those two different from each other?
Balance and harmony are two sides of the same coin. Both are about our relationship to who we are and what is most important to us.
Balance is about our inner relationship to who we are and what matters. On the other hand, harmony is about the outer relationship between who we are and the world around us.
When we are out of balance and harmony, we experience stress. Like the phenomenon of friction in the physical world, stress is the result of resistance. It is about resisting our life as it is. And like friction, we are actually burned in this process.
So how we do we maintain balance and harmony? It starts with two simple steps.
- Be present to reality.
If stress is the result of resistance to life, we need to first develop and expand our capacity to be present to reality. Our minds are so busy that we tend to skip over “what is” and go to straight to our evaluations and stories about “what is.”
It’s not like “She said this and that…” but rather “She clearly doesn’t care, because she said this and that…”
When we find our minds rushing to the next judgment, we can get present by focusing on one of four things and that are as follows:-
- Our body—i.e.: What is going on in my body right now?
- Is my heart racing?
- Is my breathing shallow?
- Am I tensing up?
- Our feelings—i.e.: How am I really feeling?
- Am I angry?
- The mind—i.e.: What thoughts are running through my head at this very moment?
- The world of phenomenon—i.e. What am I noticing going on in the world around me? What noises, sights, sounds, etc., am I experiencing in this moment?
When we can just notice these things without actually having one of them grab a hold of us, we are present to reality. And when we can just be with reality, we see that most of the time, the stress we experience is a creation of our minds responding to what is going on.
- Become aligned with what you need.
Once we notice that we are out of balance or harmony, we need to restore alignment. Marshall Rosenberg, PhD, author of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life offers a good practice for this.
To get back to balance or harmony, we can to ask for help from others to address them properly.
Ask yourself: What would make a difference to me right now?
Taking a walk to clear my head?
Stepping away from a situation?
Having a conversation to clear up a difference of opinion?
Asking a friend for help?
We can achieve balance and harmony if we determine what it is we need and then take action to fill that need. But it should be in moderation. Because many people take support of alcohol.
We must not stop doing things that nourishes you only jst for a excuse that we don’t have plenty of time like doing yoga, meditation, dancing, creative writing, etc. Don’t let slip it from your life. In my previous blog of Forgiving oneself and others I shared a forgiveness prayer which is impacting many lives at present. Try this.
So make time for those things. In fact, began to structure your life around those things.
We can never completely eliminate stress from our lives. We can only have the ability to manage it and master it, so it would not have any major impact on your life.
The trick is to improve how quickly we can stop and be present.
We experience balance and harmony when we get in touch with who we are and what matters most and then make those things a priority in our lives.
“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.” ~ Thomas Merton