What is in the air? Scientifically gases and along with these gases a common emotion “Stress” is in the air. From where has it come from? Was it always there but was never felt before? And if yes then why every one of us is inhaling, feeling it, nowadays. Believe it or not but each one of us is stressed…Why? Why aren’t we able to kill this stress?
With this thought, I was on a morning walk in the garden. Chirping birds and the cold breeze made the morning even more wonderful. Was looking around and found people in notions, on mobile with earphones plugged…lost in their own world. My eyes stuck on an old man sitting on a bench holding a stick with both hands. Quiet and peaceful and a smile reflecting utmost satisfaction. Was observing him and then to my curiosity went and sat beside him. We miss seeing such gestures nowadays.
Greeted him saying, “Good morning” and asked him if I can ask him a question. He responded positively.
I asked, “Don’t you feel stressed even a bit”?
He smiled and said,”Hey, young women! Stress is a part of life. I feel stressed at times but our generation has the killer of stress with us so stress never rules us.”
“Stress is ruling and getting into nerve nowadays,” I said.
To this, he replied,”This generation of yours left the killer of stress long behind somewhere. Though to prevail still.”
I asked who the killer is?
His answer is the eye-opener for me. He tapped my back and simply said “patience”. Look around where is it lost.
And he left. I was left with a question mark and a realization of missing the patience truly.
Looking around I tried to find out what’s wrong with our generation. Ours is a generation of speed and technology.
We learned, accepted and sharpened ourselves with new techniques. But why we failed to hold up the patience. Why it seems nowhere around? The reason seems crystal clear.
This era is an era of machines. We have mellowed a strong and a very comfortable relationship with machines.
Why are we so comfortable with them? I suppose that they don’t demand and we have command over them. We act on them and they react instantly. If we observe ourselves we can envisage well that one after another we are with them. Like if we shout down the computer we pick up the mobile. If it gets discharged we put it on charge and switch on the television. We are getting addicted and also it has a great crunch in our habits. We are losing our basic nature and the current of these machines is getting on our nerves. We act on them and machines react but the reaction of the machine is acting on our inner self as well. Being in this instantness has made us impatient. Slowly we are expecting the machinery behavior from our surroundings too.
Unlike the machines relationships and business need time. Unlike the machines, humans are not programmed so expecting results from humans each time is quite disappointing. We are failing in giving time and to keep hanging, has become a tough job.
Let me explain…
If the gadget in your hand is not working well as per your requirement, you will surely go for the other one. Lots of flipsides around. You will enlist the shopkeeper your requirements and get the best out of it.
Same is done in a relationship with us.
It’s not working let’s try for a better one, no compatibility, lack of understanding, so why to stay stuck… move on. Why compromise and waste time. This is what our attitude has turned into.
Well, we need to focus and understand that a gadget and its features are clear. We can’t extract more from it. It’s inbuilt and programmed.
The human soul is deep hence features and cannot be concluded. You can extract a lot of goodness and love by loving and holding patience with humans.
And practically by really leaving the relations and moving on with your own life will surely make you feel free but you will be empty from inside soon. This emptiness leads to depression and stress.
Materialistically you know what you want and you have enough of it in the market world outside where you can see, browse, understand and select.
But do we internally know what we want?
What our requirement is? Just love and peace.
LOVE is within and can be felt and enhanced only by showering it outside on people you meet. You can love people only by accepting them. Spend time with them. If you are being good to people or favoring them in any way don’t expect instantaneous from them. Don’t forget they are humans not machines. They may take time to react. The only gunman who can help you to retain your goodness by killing the expectation bugs is “Patience”.
Enjoy being good.
PEACE resides when stress relieves. Hold on your patience. Don’t let it go.
Be happy and stress-free.
Written By MAMTA JAIN.